Monday, August 26, 2013

she's so mean

Sorry for ripping off Matchbox Twenty for the title of this post- but it's the most fitting title I could find.
What is wrong with girls today? I just need to start off by stating the obvious.
There are two very different types of girls today: mean and nice. There's no middle ground. A girl is either too nice and gets taken advantage of or she thinks that she is God's gift to the world and is hateful.
This has to stop.
The behavior of these "mean" girls are literally ruining others lives.

Some girls today completely reject the idea and mannerisms that a lady should have. The Bible is very clear on the way that a lady, or girl, should act.
Girls should embrace their own style and personality and push away from the "norm" or "standards" that the world has set. If you don't like skinny jeans, don't wear them. If you don't like dangling earrings, don't wear them. If you don't want to be in a sorority, don't be in one. If you don't want to give your virginity away before marriage, then don't.
You have to accept that you are different from a man. Physically, obviously. But, also, in every other aspect of life. God created girls to be more gentle, kind, nurturing and the mother/bearer of children. Men are instructed in 1 Peter 3 to treat women in an understanding way because our needs are different. Men don't need the same emotional reassurance that women need. Women shouldn't be threatened by men, inappropriately touched by a man or used by a man. Too many women today try to compete with men in "toughness" and strength. But, why? Women, stop trying to prove your toughness by how much weight you can bench press. Your strength is a different strength. It's what makes you a lady. As a women, embrace it. As a man, your role is to embrace the needs of a women-emotionally- and allow her to flourish.
As women, we have to stop defining what a woman is based on worldly ways or culture. The only way that we should be defining what a woman should be is with the Bible.
Take a look at these verses:
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment . . . . Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit” (1 Peter 3:3–4).
“This is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful” (1 Peter 3:5).
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” (Proverbs 31:30).
“I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety” (1 Timothy 2:9).
“She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness” (Proverbs 31:26, kjv ).
“Share with God’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality” (Romans 12:13).
“Train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God” (Titus 2:4–5).
As women, our worth has to come from God. It cannot come from a man. If your worth comes from a man, then you cannot ever truly feel 100% worthy. Even the nicest man on the earth is no match for God. Godliness is what makes you a woman, not if you have the latest pair of sunnies from Vogue. Our value is not determined by the clothes on our back. Our value has already been determined by God and no one (not even the mean girls at your school) can take away your worth.
As women, we have two enemies. Ourselves and other girls. I read a quote on a kindness campaign page just the other day that read: "Why do we, as women, knowing how hard it is to be a woman, do so much harm to other women?"
Hmmm. Isn't that true? I can sit right here at this c0mputer and type this all out, but if I switch tabs and go to and rant about what a train wreck Miley Cyrus is- that does two things. That directly goes against what it is to be a lady and it is not producing anything that is good.
Yes, we are women. And, yes, gossip can be fun and truthful. But, what if the words that come out of your mouth are what others are saying about you? Think about it. We spend so much time tearing others down to make ourselves feel better. What if we all just started focusing on making ourselves better? What a concept.
We are also our own worst enemies. While I believe that a man not should pressure a girl to have sex with him if she doesn't want to, I won't put the blame of this on the guys. Your body is that. It's yours. And if you respect yourself and your future spouse enough to not want to engage in sex before marriage, it's ultimately YOUR responsibility to make sure that happens.
Girls will message me and say that they want to be a lady of God and save themselves, but that it's so much more fun to live in sin. They collectively will say that Christians don't have fun. Well, let me tell you.
I sing and dance and go to concerts and go on dates and go eat with friends and go to football games, etc. etc. and I have A TON OF FUN!! You can have fun and be pure. You can have fun and not compromise your standards. You can have fun without being drunk or high or without having sex. It's worth it. Being a lady is about doing what the Lord expects of us. It isn't about sitting at home knitting a scarf and never leaving the doors.
The Lord uses FUN, Christian ladies to show other ladies how fun and fulfilling being a lady of Christ is. Knowing that my worth and fulfillment comes from God is an indescribable feeling. It teaches me that my husband will be an incredible bonus to my life and I can't wait for that day to come.
But, in the meantime, don't give up your standards as a Godly woman for anything or anyone.
You are beautiful.
You are wonderful.
You are loved.
You are lovely.
You are treasured.
You are wanted.
You are sought after.
You are enough.

1 comment :

  1. Preach it Katelyn!! With each one of your blog posts I have more and more respect for you, and I honestly learn something in all of your posts. Thank-you for sharing the TRUTH!

    xoxo A