Monday, July 7, 2014

i'm not successful.

 I read an article in a magazine last week on the beach and I can't get it out of the back of my mind. It was talking about success and how the world defines it. And why the way the world defines it is wrong.
The world says that we have to own our BMW's with a husband and two kids with the white picket fence and our vacation house in the hamptons by the time we're 30. AND, we are suppose to be doing all of this while taking a conference call while we are in the drive thru at starbucks wearing our Valentino heels with our LV bag in the seat next to us.
And, is there anything really WRONG with that? No. There isn't. The only thing wrong with it is assuming every other girl who isn't doing that is unsuccessful. That's where it gets sticky and wrong.
I'm 24. I'm single. I'm not married. I'm not "successful" by the worlds terms.
But, I'm happy. I wake up every day and I honestly love my life. Isn't that enough?
It is for me. And it should be enough for you, too.
I'm single because I won't settle. I'm single because I won't have sex before I'm married. Maybe I'm single because I'm not pretty enough, not smart enough, not anything enough for a man. And that's fine. I know my worth comes from a much stronger MAN and his name is Jesus. I'm single because I refuse to settle. I refuse to play games. I won't be in a relationship just to be in one. I'm single because I care about my heart enough to keep it in one piece until a man proves he is worthy to have it.
I'm 24. I'm not 18. I don't live on my own or pay for all my bills. I'm figuring it out. I love traveling. I love music. I love my friends that play music. I love having the opportunities in this season to travel. To travel a lot. I'm in a season where I don't have a career and that's okay. I want to establish a career doing something I love. I want to go on mission trips. Lots of them. What if I go to Mexico and want to move there for a while and be a missionary? In this season, I can. I can volunteer at homeless shelters and bake cookies for firefighters in this season because I have time. I can tutor, volunteer and witness. I can do what I do because of the season and age I'm in/at.
I'm not successful because I work a full time "job" but it's not a career. I'm not a successful "writer" because I just have this silly little blog and write about stuff I like. No majorly popular sites publish my stuff. I'm not successful because I don't have a brand new car or a brand new house and I definitely don't have my vacation house in the Hamptons.
But, even with all of this "against" me, I'm happy. I LOVE my job and am grateful for it. I work with Christian people who support my dream to move to Nashville. I'm single but I LOVE getting time to grow closer to Christ so that my boyfriend one day will get to experience me with all my stuff figured out. I'm 24 but I'm in a season that I couldn't imagine not being in.
I'm just's up to you. You can hate your 9-5 dateless life or you can see everything that IS going for you. You can dream and make goals and plans and chase them with nothing holding you back. You can decide to be a positive person on a mission to make other people happy. It's up to you.
It's my prayer--whether you're 9 or 18 or 24 or 65 that you realize how great you have it. It's my prayer that you will find what makes you happy and you won't give up on the dream. Too many people give up. I promise, just keep chasing it. You never know what one more day can bring.


  1. I always love your posts Katelyn!!! They are always exactly what I need to read! Pinning this one to Pinterest haha. :-)

    xoxo A

  2. I just found your Instagram and decided to read your blog. This is so perfect. Love it! Thank you!