Thursday, February 20, 2014

satisfied while single.

My heart is so blessed through this little blog! I never thought when I started writing a year ago that I would be able to have had the experiences I've had or met the people I've met in the past year. I started blogging because I always thought I had so much to say. I've learned so much in a year and I wouldn't want to do one day differently. I'm so blessed everyday by y'all through your emails. Nothing is as exciting and fun as reading a message from y'all. So, thank you!! I got a message on Facebook today that I get a lot, so I figured maybe a few more people might stumble across here and need to read it, too.
 
The content of the message was the person wanted to know my secret to being "single" and "happy."
 
Well, here we go.
 
The secret is Jesus. I was the cliché Christian  in high school when people would be changing their relationship status on Facebook from "single" to "in a relationship with ______" mine would say "in a relationship with Jesus." Ha. Which, I mean, looking back, it was true. It still is. Jesus has to be the foundation in your heart before you start building a relationship with a man. A relationship with a man can not be the foundation of your heart. Or, it shouldn't be. There is no man in the world that can love and give and take as much as Jesus can. I heard an amazing quote once that said "Jesus is the only third party in a relationship that can make the relationship work." Wow. Powerful. So good.
 
It's so hard for girls to be single. I don't know why because I've never been a girl who HAS to be in a relationship. I've blogged about this before, I mean, that's 99% of what I blog about, BUT, I was taught that God is your first love. And, every time you get into a relationship with someone, that person gets a piece of your heart. You might not agree with my theory on relationships and that's okay, these are just my opinions. I think that more and more girls are not guarding their hearts and getting into relationships too soon. I mean, a relationship is a BIG deal. It is. I was taught that you "date" people you could see yourself marrying. I wasn't taught the style of dating just for the fun of it. Because, really, it isn't fun to mess with people's emotions and hormones and mind if you think about it. "Oh, let's just go to the movies and make out and have sex and not worry about anything because we are just having fun." See my point?
 
I pray everyday for my future husband. I don't know who he is, obviously, but I pray for him. He may be someone I know or someone I won't meet for 2 more years but I'm praying for him. I want him to have pure motives, a great work ethic and a sense of humor. I want to be in relationship that leads to a marriage. This may sound "scary" to guys but I'm not 18 anymore. I'm not 30, either. I'm 23. Old enough to know what I want in a man and old enough to expect it. There are so many qualities that I think are attractive in guys. I want someone who loves Jesus. I want a man that puts Jesus above me. (Remember, solid foundation!!)
 
I have the best example of what a husband/father/man should be in my dad. He and my mom have been married for 29 years. They love each other but they love God more. My dad has sacrificed more than any other man I've ever known. He's built a million dollar business from scratch. He's just the real deal. And, he's the same man who led me to Christ in a southern Baptist revival when I was 6 and he helped my pastor baptize me and he gave me a purity ring when I was 18 and he's just always been consistent.
 
Consistency is something he's instilled in me that I look for in a guy. Some people ask me if I'm ever super lonely or discouraged because I'm single. And honestly, no. How could I be? My worth is not based on the man who is holding my hand. The guy who gets to hold my hand is a BONUS to my life. Man or no man, I'm still having the time of my life chasing my dreams. The man that God has for me will come into my life at the exact right time.
 
I also hope that girls realize that just because you CAN be in a relationship doesn't mean you SHOULD be in one. I mean, I'm farrrr from a super model but I've had my fair share of date offers. There has been some super, amazing men of God that have asked me out but I just never felt a green light from God. I want the man that I get in a relationship with to be who God wants me to be with. I've fought with God a little on this one before. There has been one super amazing and godly man that "pursued" me but God said no.
 
Anyone can have sex. Anyone. Not anyone can resist those temptations and enter marriage a virgin with a pure heart. I honestly cannot think of a better gift that I'll be able to give my husband when we get married than that. And besides that, sex complicates things. It takes the focus of the relationship off of making the emotional bond stronger and allows a physical bond to get stronger. And, a stronger emotional bond is what you want. I don't want to be in a relationship with just sex and no feelings. And, I honestly don't think anyone wants that.
 
I try to stay positive and encourage girls that it's okay in these single seasons to question God. I mean, I'm super fun. I wish I had someone to go to shows with or to hunt with or to just experience life with. My time is coming, though. And so is yours. You're not half a heart looking for your other half. You are a full heart. And your husband will have a full heart. And, together, you'll be two full and amazingly strong beating hearts. Don't put your life on hold waiting for a guy.
 
The very reason I feel like I'm single in this season of my life is because of the HUGE life changes I'm going through. I'm planning a massive move in the next year that I need to focus on. I need to focus on my relationship with God more. I need to just focus my attention on other things right now. God didn't place a desire in my heart to be married if he wouldn't fulfill it. I STRONGLY believe that. I have that passion because it was placed in my heart by God himself and nothing anyone tells me can change that.
 
The point of this rambling post, as usual, is to not settle. Be satisfied in your singleness. Be in a relationship with God. Be in a relationship with you. I know that sounds a little crazy BUT work on being the best you that you can be and you'll attract the best him that he can be. There is nothing better than having a guilt free conscious at night. Thank God that he is on your side and that he is preparing a man for you. I mean, God and I talk on the reg and I KNOW that my husband is going to be one good looking son of a gun. But, I have to trust and wait and pray. It's that simple. There is no trick or shortcut to it. You have to learn to be happy with yourself. You have to learn to be happy single. Because, the blessing after being content while single will be the relationship and marriage of a lifetime!

:)

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

it's up to you.

I'm generally an extremely positive person. Of course, we all have our "off" days, but for the most part, I just tend to see my glass as full vs. empty.

I learned to be content with what I had and who I was at a young age. I'm so thankful that I have the best family in the world that encourages and supports what I want to do in life. 

I'm living a dream life. I mean, don't get me wrong, I have plenty of shortcomings and plenty of things I want and need to work on in my life BUT I don't let the negatives define me. 

I don't want my gratefulness to be misinterpreted as bragging but I just genuinely believe in making the best of any situation. I mean, I'm 24 with a college degree but I am not working at my DREAM job right now. I have an amazing job that supports my dream job and so I'm thankful. I'm single and not married, but I'm learning more about me everyday and so I'm thankful. I'm not at an ideal place in any aspect of my life but I'm thankful.

I'm thankful that I'm not where I want to be yet because it continually drives me to be better. To blog better, to find new music, to find new cities, to find new things about me. I just absolutely refuse to settle.
 

My wonderful boss and I talk about where I want to be by the end of the year a lot. She said something to me that just really stood out to me,

"If you don't get up and do, then you don't."

Have you ever felt like you were waiting on a sign straight from God and then you got one?
That's exactly what happened to me when she said that.

Sometimes I think that I'll never make it to Nashville or never make it past what I'm doing now. I'm so grateful for my family and for Birmingham and for Alabama. But, if I stayed here, it would be because I was settling. It's okay to not want to settle. It's what separates normal people from the people who are living their dream.



I want to live my dream. And I wish others would, too. I'm so mentally exhausted from receiving hateful tweets and messages and comments from complete strangers in regards to my life. People tell me to give up on love because I believe in staying a virgin until I'm married. People tell me to quit writing because all it does is make them jealous of my life. People tell me if I move to Nashville that doors will continually be slammed in my face. And, you know what? THESE ARE COMPLETE STRANGERS telling me this stuff. I honestly want every single person in the whole world to seek their dream-and to go after it.

If you don't like something, change it. YOU are the only person that your happiness can depend on. Joy comes from God and you HAVE to have joy to survive in the world today. Loving Jesus brings so much completion and wholeness to your life. Praying and asking God to direct your dreams in a way that will please him will open so many doors. I promise!

Love this!

I've blogged and blogged about being nice and kind to everyone we meet. And, sometimes, I still let the negativity sink in a little. But, no more. I refuse to believe anything less than the best for my life. And you should too. Surround yourself with people who SUPPORT you and not people who belittle you. Get a plan together and KNOW where you want to be in a year. Refuse to listen to the negativity and seek God in all of your decisions.

I'm never going to be the best at anything but I can be the best at being KATELYN. And you can be the best you as well. If we started focusing on being the best we could be, we would realize we are way too flawed to be hateful towards others. It breaks my heart when I read emails that tell me to "kill myself." But, I refuse to let those people define my life. Whenever I receive one of those messages, I immediately give it to God and start speaking truth into my life. It is amazing how wonderful your life can be with God as your guide.

Be Better

The point of this rambling post is this: if you're going to give up on anything in life, give up on negativity. Give up on tearing others down. Give up on jealously. Give up on hatefulness. Embrace love and peace and joy and the love that God is waiting to give you. And live your dream. Go after it.

Yes, you!


  

Sunday, February 16, 2014

chase rice and sam hunt, with a sam hunt encore (myrtle beach/tifton)

There is nothing I love more than country music and road trips and vacationing (except Jesus, of course) and I got to do all of my favorite things for the past four days. I traveled over 2,000 miles since Thursday with one of my best friends, Michelle, to some amazing shows.

Thursday started off the adventures with a Florida Georgia Line concert in Tupelo, Mississippi. I will have another post dedicated to FGL due to the overwhelming requests for both Chase and Sam recaps.

Friday, Michelle and I headed to Myrtle Beach for a fun weekend and to see Chase Rice and Sam Hunt at the House of Blues. The show sold out early Friday which is something that doesn't happen often at House of Blues.

I recently saw Sam in Birmingham for the first time a few weeks ago. I've been LOVING his free mix tape since August of last year so to finally have an opportunity to see him live was a treat. He was amazing in Birmingham and impeccable in Myrtle Beach.

He opened for Chase Rice and even as an opener, I was SO pleasantly surprised by how many people were singing along with his songs. It's so neat to know Sam's story. It's funny how I saw him a few years ago playing as a quarterback for UAB and then seeing him this weekend selling out venues singing songs. Crowds have always been following him. :)





I've also had the opportunity to see Chase Rice a few times and I can honestly say that no other opening act has been able to hold the attention of the crowd as well as Sam did. It set a good mood for Chase's set.

Chase is another favorite for lots of reasons. Chase is fun to watch. Both Chase and Sam are very much doing their own thing in country music and it's working. They both have a style of music that just makes people enjoy themselves at the shows. Chase played a mixture of older songs and newer ones. This was the best Chase Rice show I've seen so far.

Chase Rice is gaining a lot of momentum in country music since I first saw him last fall. I LOVE finding artists that have good, fun music. That is exactly what Chase Rice music is-good and fun. It's everything that I can relate to growing up in a small, country town- trucks, tailgates, dirt roads, etc. What I love about Chase is his "no care" attitude in all the right ways. He's not trying to please anyone with his lyrics. He hasn't even signed a record deal yet but he has almost 90k followers on Twitter.  And it's not because people aren't asking him to sign one, that's for sure. :)

He's making a name for himself by BEING himself and that is what I admire about him (and Sam alike!)



Chase wasn't feeling well early Friday and even tweeted a picture of him at the doctor getting fluids for dehydration but he still gave 110%. You can tell how much an artist appreciates his fans when a situation like this is presented. Chase played the best show I've ever seen him play-all after battling sickness all day. That's the recipe of a rock star, y'all.


Another fun aspect of following the artist's is getting to know their bands. Chase has an incredible band. They all have such great onstage chemistry and just put off a really intense vibe. I've had the opportunity of meeting his drummer, Aaron, and he is awesome! He's a great drummer as well. :)

I've apologized for the quality of my concert pictures before but I'll just reiterate that I don't blog for perfect picture quality but for show recaps. Haha. The pictures I do get are added bonuses. And, I have several videos on my Instagram account from Sam and Chase (from both nights) that y'all are welcome to view. I made my Instagram public so y'all can enjoy them. My username is katelync. Please don't repost without permission. :)

We were able to say hey to Sam and Tyrone after the show, too! Thanks guys!



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We got up on Saturday and headed to Tifton, Georgia to see Sam Hunt play at the Gin. The Gin was such a fun venue to see him play at. One of our friends, JD, owns the Gin and all of the staff made the night even better. So, thank you to JD and the Gin for being great hosts. Make sure you follow the Gin on Twitter and Instagram.

There were two opening acts for Sam. The first one was an awesome singer but I didn't catch his name so please forgive me! The second opening act was Cale Dodds. He played several songs that I really enjoyed. Make sure you look him up on social media and listen to his song "Preach" on Sound Cloud.

Sam took the stage a little after 11 and once again topped his performance from Friday night. I know I say it a lot but I'm starting to think he is a magician as well as a musician they way he amps up his show a little more each time I've seen him.




Sam recently signed a record deal and is releasing his album in the fall of this year. As I wrote about in my post about Sam in Birmingham, if you don't know him, his mixtape is

F R E E

so go download it. Like, download it here. Right now.





We should probably also take a moment to applaud Sam Hunt's style. If I could enter Emoji's in Blogger, I'd put the little applauding hands here (x10). It's just impeccable. That is all.


I love that Sam and Chase are touring together because I feel like I can interchangeably talk about why I appreciate Sam and Chase as artists for the same reason. No one else in country music, or any genre for that matter, has a "Sam Hunt" sound. It is completely his- it's unique, raw and intriguing. I've said before that I'd love to be a fly on the wall when he is writing a song because he is just that good of a songwriter.

Sam, like Chase, has a great band! Tyrone and Josh are his guitar players and Josh plays the drums. I could listen to each of them play by themselves and be blown away but then let them all play together with Sam singing, and it's just the best sounding bunch of guys in the world. They also have the best managers- Brad and John! Make sure to appreciate the artists you like to listen to but also support the entire band because they are a HUGE part of the artist as well!



Tyrone is actually a really pleasant guy. Don't let the thug faces fool you. :)

Thank you Sam for putting on two unforgettable shows this weekend!! Make sure y'all go to his website and PLEASE see him play at a spot near you. I promise you won't regret it!



Follow Sam on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook!

I also met some really sweet and great girls this weekend! So, thank you to Jenny, Jacquelyn and Keri for being such sweet girls to me!
and a big shout out to this girl, Michelle, for being the best road trip girl ever.



Can I just move to Nashville now? Until the next show, be safe and sweet everyone!

-k




Saturday, February 8, 2014

i'm a virgin. so?

this is short and sweetttttt tonight because it's currently 10 PM and I'm not at a country show for the first time since September and I am tired. but, I've been asked A LOT in the past few weeks about my relationship status, views on marriage, relationship type questions, etc.

okay, so, first up- I'm 24. and I'm a virgin. I'm not ashamed of that. And, I'll never be ashamed of that. I fell in love with Jesus at a very young age and I have had amazing men examples in my life. My grandfathers and father are the greatest men alive. They give until they can't give anymore and they love more than anyone I've ever met.

I made a promise to myself and to my church and to my parents and to everyone that I would remain pure until I was married. The standards that I guess I have for a man are pretty high, so my purity has never really been subjected before.

One guy that I was talking to in college literally got mad and ignored me after we went to dinner one night when I told him that I wouldn't have sex with him.

It's just never been a hard thing to say no to. For me.

I get emails and twitter messages weekly about "how I stay pure." I don't really have the right answers but I don't put myself in compromising situations, I stay sober so I know what's happening and I'm just not going to have sex until I'm married.

I know that this blog was STARTED to be an encouragement to girls and it's slowly gained a TON of momentum because of all the amazing travels and shows I've been blessed with over the past few months.

But, since this is basically an online diary, I just felt like someone somewhere tonight maybe needed a little encouragement or a little push that purity is an AMAZING thing and it's not something to be ashamed of.

If you are pure, you are strong. ANYONE can have sex. Not anyone will be able to tell their spouse that they have saved themselves (and their hearts) for that one person.

I have a purity ring that my parents gave me when I was 18. I wear it on my right hand but it's a constant reminder to me. I look at it as being married to myself. I have to look out for myself and control myself. Then, when the day comes and I'm asked to marry the right guy, I won't have to second doubt myself based on previous situations.

I'm a firm believer in everything I've mentioned in this post. If you need someone to pray for you, I'll be HAPPY to. I've let guys get away with inappropriate talk lately towards me and I need to stand up for myself and be reminded that purity is more than just no sex. It's purity of our thoughts and motives, too.

So, if you are a virgin, don't be ashamed and don't be embarrassed. Walk with the confidence that the right man will embrace your purity. He will guard it. He will protect it. He will honor it.

The right man is worth waiting for.

:)